49 Life Lessons from 36 Years of Living Large
Updated: Dec 1, 2020
From me, to you, with love.
It's my birthday today!!!
I love celebrating all birthdays. Not only because they offers the perfect reason to pop some champagne, but also because they're often a time of reflection.
As I reflect on the glorious life I've lived to date, I couldn't help but think about the many (mostly recent) life lessons that continue to propel me into the best version of myself, and I wanted to gift them to you as well. Because what's a party without gifts?
Love your life loudly. But do it in a way that brings people up in the process, and doesn't make anyone feel small (think: more Oprah, less Kanye West).
View every single challenge, failure and closed door as an opportunity, and use it to help you move towards your next level of greatness.
Never stay in a relationship, job, situation, or conversation where you are not wanted, respected or valued. Take your talents elsewhere, ASAP.
Other peoples opinions of you are none of your business.
There is enough success to go around for all of us. Reminder: no one can do what you do like you do.
"Laughter, tears and dance moves: better out than in.” - Dennis Morton; So true.
A glass of champagne will improve every situation.
Being an adult means making decisions and taking actions that your future self will thank you for, which also means that you’re often passing up instant gratification for long term happiness, and choosing to make investments in your life that mature over time. These things are not always fun in the near term, but are always worth it.
Unpack the parts of your life that are consciously and subconsciously holding you back. We all need therapy.
“I love myself” are the three most important words in the English language.
Movement is medicine. Prioritize fitness and movement every single day, so that it not only becomes what you do but who you are.
Being a mom is the best and hardest job ever. Moms are superheroes, with unique superpowers, and they create and sustain life which is the most impressive superpower of all. Every mom deserves the utmost level of respect, admiration and praise.
Motherhood is a beautiful, messy and magical free-fall. Motherhood is the big game (thanks for this, Abby Wambach), and it's not for everyone, and that's okay.
Affirmations, the power of positive thinking, and setting intentions works. It’s the science of selective attention. Get into it.
Surround yourself with people who require you to be better and do better, and those who motivate you and bring out the best in you. You truly are a product of the people and mindsets you consistently consume. Choose wisely.
When we each lead with a "we" vs. "me" mentality the world will be a better place. Let's make it a better place.
To level up, you have to invest in yourself; into coaches and trainings and personal development.
Success and happiness comes in all different shapes and sizes and is all relative. Stop comparing.
Aging is a gift.
Ladies, when we're together we need to have more conversations about building empires and wealth and business, and less on beauty products, diets and anti-aging. It’s time to change the conversation.
Time is our greatest asset. Spend it wisely, and don’t let other people spend it for you.
Anything worth doing or achieving is hard. Stop wasting energy talking about or thinking about the hard part of whatever you're doing or want to do, and instead put that energy into taking the necessary actions to achieve the goal.
Not everyone deserves an explanation.
Consistently choosing education over entertainment will improve the quality of your life.
Slowing down is the new black, and less is more.
Not responding is a response.
It's okay if your day job is the angel investor for your passions. Who knows, some day your passions may become the main gig.
Prioritize hobbies and passions that makes you feel good.
Adopt habits and routines that allow you to live your best life, with respect to the season of life you're in.
You have enough time in the day to create your best life.
Never burn bridges. When they go low, you go high.
“Wanting to make a shit-ton of money” is a perfectly good goal to have. While money doesn't buy happiness, it does help you fund, vote for, and amplify the people, issues and things that matter. And well-funded individuals change the world.
Showing up as your authentic self in every single room you enter is the only way to live.
Consistency, passion and focus are more important than raw talent.
Don’t let anyone or anything disturb your peace for too long. Life is too short to give anyone or anything too much power over how you live.
It's okay to outgrow things and people, and still appreciate the value they added when they were good for you.
Bold lipstick is a power move.
Trust your gut. She's always right.
Consistently choose foods that show yourself that you love your body. You are what you eat. Buy organic.
Look for the moments worth celebrating every damn day, and celebrate them effervescently. Open that bottle of champagne.
Live large, do you. This life is the only one you get, and there are no dress rehearsals.
Find your purpose, and live with purpose.
Always bring the tequila, just in case.
Marriage takes work. And love is the best. When you choose the right partner the work feels and is worth it. Find ways to laugh about the disagreements, and never go to bed angry.
The 90s is the greatest music decade.
When you're looking for a leader, look in the mirror first. We are the leaders we’ve been waiting for.
Women should be in charge of everything.
Be your own hype woman.
Drink more champagne.
I plan on making this year my best vintage yet. Join me.