Always Look Inward to Go Upward
Updated: Aug 18
10 actions to take today, if you're growing through discomfort & change.
Last day, best day.
Guys. We’ve made it through 100% of our bad days. Look at each and every one of us, still doing it. Showing up. Taking the next step. Finding joy. Accepting the suck. Complaining and venting about it, but also continuing to show up for ourselves and our family and friends. Not letting the not-so-good-parts define us. Breaking down, but getting stronger. It’s hard and it’s impressive. If you haven’t heard it yet today, let me be the first to tell you that I’m proud of you, and you should be too.
And it’s not about who’s “doing it better” or “who’s in a harder season” — if you’re looking for comparisons you’re missing the point and your purpose. This period of growth is hitting each and every one of us in ways that none of us have trained for, but if you’re reading this today, congrats, you’re doing it, and on your terms.
Today I say goodbye to my old job and mail back my laptop, cellphone & badge. A job I got laid off from, that was a toxic fit for me (I can now say that with conviction), but it was also an experience I needed to have because it has taught me more about what I want and don’t, who I am and who I want to be, and where my purpose and passions will take me because I’m putting them first. That is the best gift my most recent career experience has given me. And I feel like a billion bucks today.
Have you learned the lessons that the most recent hard thing you’re experiencing is teaching you?
Take a moment to really reflect on this, especially if you are experiencing discomfort around something. I recommend doing the following
Make a list of your feelings.
Make a list of WHAT is making you feel "X".
Make a list of WHY you think you feel "X".
Make a list of WHAT you are learning.
Write down what you can and cannot control.
Let go of what you can't control immediately.
Take actions around what you can control, and around the lessons you've learned that will serve your future self.
Remind yourself that there is growth on the other side of discomfort .
I have been working towards and preparing for my bigger and better future more aggressively than ever before since the moment I received my layoff notice and became a #FreeAgent. And today I sit here writing to you all, blissfully happy, after 4 weeks of straight hustling and an epic personal branding session that marked the culmination of the work I’ve been doing to get my whole self to today (more on that later), and I’m here to remind you that there is an enormous amount of happiness and joy on the other side of discomfort and forced change, if you embrace it and work for it.
Don't ever settle.
Let’s say goodbye to the things in our lives that are not serving our future, and keep looking inward to go upward.